March 8th is International Women’s Day! As a proud feminist, this is a big deal of a day for me. And this year, I’m going to celebrate it by shedding some light on what it feels like to be a woman.
Equality for women is something that has come a long way, but it still has a long way to go. Internationally, how it feels to be a woman is how it feels to be fearful.
Every single day there are women in the world who have to fear being able to walk to their car alone at night, because they might get attacked. There are women who have to watch which outfit they put on, because that could give off the wrong idea to a misogynist. There are women who have to keep their faces covered, because they might get arrested. There are women who have to keep their mouth closed and let a man take advantage of her, because if they don’t they will be killed. Still think women’s rights don’t have a long way to go?
It’s sad that the general consensus of what it feels like to be a woman isn’t something that proves to be worthwhile. Yet often times what us women forget, is that we have the power to break boundaries, end stigmas, and create change. Though this may take longer in certain places in the world, in America we can start the domino effect.
In America, we are fortunate enough to not have to worry about being arrested for speaking up or showing our face; but we aren’t out of the clear. We are still instilled with fear about going places at night, wearing an outfit that may give off the wrong idea, walking somewhere alone, sexual harassment at work, etcetera. But, the difference is that in America we can speak up about these things and not let it define us.
For starters, we can choose to not let people use the phrase “like a girl,” to refer to someone as weaker than a man. The phrase “like a girl” will only ever mean like a badass to me. We can choose to not let people use the phrase “being a pussy,” to refer to someone who’s being a wimp. Not to get graphic but a “pussy” is capable of pushing out a child, so please tell me how that is wimpy. We can choose to not let our “no” go unheard. If a guy wants our name, our number, our body – we can choose to say no and say it loudly, for all to hear.
How it feels to be a woman shouldn’t ever feel like a problem. Being a woman should feel like you have the power to dictate your own life, and that’s where the idea of feminism comes into play. You see, being for women’s rights doesn’t make you against men; it makes you for equal rights.
So as a feminist, I choose how I want to be represented. And for me, I choose to be strong, determined, ambitious, driven, and completely kick-ass.
So now let me ask you, how does it feel to be a woman? Is your answer living up to your full potential? Better yet, is your answer benefiting the women who are not able to even answer the question? If it doesn’t, I suggest you change it.
Justice for all women is something we will only ever achieve if we work together in working on ourselves.
Girls just want to have fun….damental rights!